They once depended on their parents virtually for survival. As children become older, they begin to try new things while parents are within reach. However, this becomes less true as they reach preschool age. Now, they say that they can do things without their parents’ assistance because they are either a “big boy” or a “big girl.” To some parents, this attitude found in four year old children may shock them. Other parents welcome the independence of their children. After all, being less dependent means more time for parents.
During those first four years of their lives, children have been observing and mimicking parents and others. Observations and mimicking are skills that teach young children how to behave and act in society. These are part of the learning process that will continue into adulthood. It is best for parents and other adults to behave well by being responsible for their own actions and behaviors. It is important to remain polite by using manners in front of young children because many of them will be too busy to say thank you or please. Children are in a hurry to try a new skill independently, often forgetting to use their manners by saying “excuse me” or “please move”. They like to take a challenge before it goes away.
Constantly remind the preschooler to use his or her manners, as they want to complete a task on their own. If possible, explain to them about manners before he or she decides to become independent at that moment. Chances are the preschooler may become more thoughtful as he or she exercises their independence.
Although, the preschooler thinks he or she can do anything. It is important to be within reach of the preschooler if he or she needs assistance. Preschoolers like to feel independent, yet be able to rely on a parent or some other caregiver for assistance, assurances, or encouragements. Sometimes, preschoolers need to be reminded of safety or other types of rules. Many preschoolers think that rules do not apply to them because once again they are independent. Explain to them that if they are not going to follow rules, then they cannot complete that activity or task on their own.
Preschoolers also like to copy like other children and some adults. So they may think that they are similar to older kids, therefore wanting to do something a little more risqué, not appropriate for their age level. This is part of being independent. They don’t know their limits yet. This is where parents step in.
